Angry Again?
Feeling angry again?
If you are like many people, it happens all too often.
The person who was driving in the left lane 10 mph below the speed limit. Does this ever happen to you? Not supposed to pass in the right lane, but this person seems to be too involved with their own thoughts, a cell phone conversation, talking to her dogs (I observed this one today) or, simply, likes to avoid the "problems" of the right lane (you know, other cars merging or turning or something) so you either have to hang out behind them or pass in the right lane. I don't know why these people drive like this. It doesn't really matter. Why? Because it is REALITY! The person IS in the left lane going slow for whatever reason.
The slacker who got the promotion to supervisor because she didn't spend time on her computer, but spent time "smoozing" her supervisor. They don't do anything to promote the company's bottom line like you do, but they move ahead, moving to their level of incompetence (the Peter Principle). Arggh! (Charlie Brown would say.) It may not seem fair, but it is what? REALITY!
So, what can I do with REALITY?
I can either react or respond.
When I react, I feel irritated, frustrated, annoyed, frustrated, angry, or rageful. The more incensed I feel, the more likely I will make a poor choice in behavior. This behavior can vary from complaining to a co-worker or partner to more aggressive behavior like flipping the person off or threatening him or her. Do I really need to do that? Do I feel better? (Only temporarily, by the way.) Inside, my blood pressure has gone up. I may get a headache. Do I need these symptoms. Doesn't sound healthy does it?
Or, I could respond. What information is this situation providing me? About myself? About planning ahead? About my lifestyle? About how to drive? About how to work? If I listen to those answers, I will be farther ahead. I will quit wasting time complaining and doing ineffective behaviors and start learning from life and about myself.
Is it easy? NO! It is difficult to change my mindset. Who promised us that life would be easy? (Another thing to make us angry, right?)
Is it worth it? YES! Making deep changes in our life is worth it.
Or we could simply stay angry and stuck.
If you are like many people, it happens all too often.
The person who was driving in the left lane 10 mph below the speed limit. Does this ever happen to you? Not supposed to pass in the right lane, but this person seems to be too involved with their own thoughts, a cell phone conversation, talking to her dogs (I observed this one today) or, simply, likes to avoid the "problems" of the right lane (you know, other cars merging or turning or something) so you either have to hang out behind them or pass in the right lane. I don't know why these people drive like this. It doesn't really matter. Why? Because it is REALITY! The person IS in the left lane going slow for whatever reason.
The slacker who got the promotion to supervisor because she didn't spend time on her computer, but spent time "smoozing" her supervisor. They don't do anything to promote the company's bottom line like you do, but they move ahead, moving to their level of incompetence (the Peter Principle). Arggh! (Charlie Brown would say.) It may not seem fair, but it is what? REALITY!
So, what can I do with REALITY?
I can either react or respond.
When I react, I feel irritated, frustrated, annoyed, frustrated, angry, or rageful. The more incensed I feel, the more likely I will make a poor choice in behavior. This behavior can vary from complaining to a co-worker or partner to more aggressive behavior like flipping the person off or threatening him or her. Do I really need to do that? Do I feel better? (Only temporarily, by the way.) Inside, my blood pressure has gone up. I may get a headache. Do I need these symptoms. Doesn't sound healthy does it?
Or, I could respond. What information is this situation providing me? About myself? About planning ahead? About my lifestyle? About how to drive? About how to work? If I listen to those answers, I will be farther ahead. I will quit wasting time complaining and doing ineffective behaviors and start learning from life and about myself.
Is it easy? NO! It is difficult to change my mindset. Who promised us that life would be easy? (Another thing to make us angry, right?)
Is it worth it? YES! Making deep changes in our life is worth it.
Or we could simply stay angry and stuck.
posted by Max Stager, MA, LPC, NCC @ 11:50 PM
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